This week’s spiritual homework is being affectionate with yourself
You can change how you feel
Some people have spent so many years degrading themselves that to suddenly be affectionate will feel strange or downright wrong. Some may even say I cannot change how I feel about myself. Well, I can say they are wrong. You can change whatever you want to change. I changed myself and how I felt about myself, the world, and the universe. I did the homework. You can change too if you do the homework.
Stop listening to your inner committee.
We all have an inner committee that keeps agitating us either by saying we are wrong or stupid. Sometimes your inner committee will cause you to judge others, which keeps you from affection for yourself. It can feel good to the ego to be blaming or judge someone, but it is not adding any love to your life. If you have not picked an opposite loving voice, perhaps you can start there. Choosing to listen to the opposite voice is a way to be affectionate with yourself and, in truth, to take your power back from your negative ego.
Work with your inner orphans.
Begin to envision these parts of yourself. What do they look like? If your goal is to be affectionate with yourself, you will have a hard time being angry at your inner orphan as they share their true feelings of being forgotten or not loved or made to feel wrong. I think the orphan work is one of the best ways to practice affection. When you allow yourself to feel the pain or sadness that this orphan has been carrying around for years, it is almost impossible not to feel love and affection for them.
Watch how you talk to yourself.
You can watch how you talk to yourself. If you are someone who puts yourself down – make it your goal to become more affectionate with yourself. When you start to say – that was dumb of me or how stupid am I, instead choose to cancel those negative statements with something positive. Such as I didn’t know better at that moment, or maybe I did it wrong, but now I know differently. This is how you become affectionate with yourself
Being kind to yourself
Being affectionate in the dictionary says – you show your love or fondness for another person – in the way that you behave towards them. And what I am asking you to do for a week is to show your love and fondness for yourself – by how you treat yourself. Being kind and treating yourself with affection, is not only a loving thing to do, but it also begins to shift your preceptive not only about what you deserve but it also tends to draw more of the same energy into your life. Everything you want to experience in the world begins with how you see yourself. If you see yourself through the “lens of affection”, you will naturally experience more affection out in the world. Become Affectionate with yourself. – it will change everything!
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For more on self-love, check out my books The Heart Of The Matter and How Learning To Say Goodbye Taught Me How To Live.
Until next time, be the light the world needs and have a love for all.