How would your life change if you understood that experiencing a loss was actually an opportunity to discover your power?

LOSS SUCKS. It does not matter if it is a loss of a person, a dream, a relationship, or a job. It is painful and frightening.  It can often feel as if you have entered a vast wasteland never to return.

If you have experienced a loss, you know that every part of your being will be activated. Your ego will be on over-drive. Any unhealed wounds will bubble to the surface. Beliefs that you have held on to tightly will begin to unravel. So rather than trying to put everything back together the way it was as fast as you can use the energy you are experiencing to strip away what has kept you from loving yourself and living a life always centered around that love.  “During times of loss, you can discover who you were meant to be before time and the world made you forget.” There is a reason that I begin and end my book, How Learning to Say Goodbye Taught Me How to Live, with that quote because it is true; I have experienced it myself.  The first step toward reclaiming that forgotten self is to take responsibility for what is going on inside of you.

• THOUGHTS & BELIEFS When your mind is in chaos and roaring with all the worst-case scenarios, or telling you why you lost what you lost, or how you were not good enough, instead of trying to ignore the chatter, listen. Let it reveal those hidden thoughts and beliefs you have been unconsciously allowing to create your experiences. Then you can consciously decide if what you believe and think is based on the truth of love or the lie of fear. As you pay attention to what is going on in your mind, you will also begin to understand how your ego has put safety nets in place to protect you such as control or judgment. All safety nets are built on the false premise that others are more lovable or more powerful than you. Only someone in fear needs safety nets. Remember only when you acknowledge something can you change it. So pay attention to your thoughts.

• EMOTIONS  Loss does not care if you are someone who is intimate with their emotions or someone who has become numb to what they are feeling. Loss will force you to confront your emotions offering you an opportunity to discover what you truly feel about yourself and the world, not just what you give lip service to in public. Emotions will always let you know what your thinking and believing in the moment. So pay attention to one of the best navigational systems you have. Also, don’t waste time dumping your emotions on another person. That will change nothing. Use them instead to discover what needs healing and changing within you. The only person responsible for what you feel is you.

Stay in your power by letting loss turn you into a detective of your life. Be willing to investigate, interrogate, and eventually integrate everything going on inside of you.
If you will take responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and actions and do the inner work,  you will come out of the crisis with more than when you entered it!

Until next time, be the light the world needs and stay in love for all!