When working on returning back to self-love, you’re going to have to take your honesty to a new level. Most of us spend most of our lives lying to ourselves. It’s time to be honest with yourself. If you find that you’re angry with other people or cussing them out – telling them to screw off, you need to look underneath your anger. Because underneath your anger is what you need to heal. It is most likely hurt or fear……
When working on returning to self-love, you have to understand the fundamental part of self-love is love. Self-love is about loving you. It’s not about receiving love from other people. It’s about tapping into the love that resides within your heart. Self-love is about loving you. Now, this can seem easy to a lot of people, but I found that people are able to tap into their anger or rage, or their fear. However, when it comes to tapping into…..
When working on returning to self-love, there is a point where you’re going to have to be willing to look at your shame. As human beings, we all carry shame. We usually picked it up in early childhood and carried it forward in our lives into adulthood. Shame is harmful. It does nothing but cause us to feel bad about ourselves. To believe that we’re not worthy – that we’re not valuable – that we’re not good enough. But when…..
When working on returning back to self-love, you’re going to have to be brutally honest with yourself. To admit that you’re unable to receive love. Now I know a lot of people who give love freely. They give, and they give, and they give, and then they sit back and wait to see if they’re going to receive love in return. Now if they do receive love in return, they’re not able to allow it to touch their hearts. You…..
When working on returning to self-love, the holidays become slightly different. Maybe you have tons of family and friends to be around, or perhaps you’ll be alone. In any case, holidays can become a very lonely time. Self-love helps you to understand that even if you’re alone or perhaps surrounded by family or loved ones who don’t understand you, that’s OK. The universe understands you. You are worthy of love. You matter, you are valued, and you are more than…..
When working on returning to self-love, you’re going to find your way back to acceptance. I was recently talking to a group of people a group of transgender people and how they feel they don’t get any acceptance. I had to remind them that acceptance starts within. It doesn’t matter if someone else accepts you because what they’re showing you is their lack of self-love. Acceptance starts within. You’ve got to go within and get to know yourself – all…..
When working on returning back to self-love, you’re going to have to acknowledge the changes that are happening in your life. Let’s say you’ve changed a negative belief or you’ve healed an old wound. You’re going to have to acknowledge that it has changed your life, maybe only in small ways, but it has changed your life. If you acknowledge the changes that are happening along the way, it will inspire you to continue to do the work. To make…..
Flaws play a purpose. When working on returning to self-love, you’re going to have to learn to embrace your flaws. Now when I was younger, I had a speech impediment. I couldn’t say my M’s or my N’s or my T’s or my D’s. I was literally tongue-tied. Which means I didn’t read very well in school either. This is one of the reasons I loved acting because you could memorize your lines. What my flaw did – I may…..
When working on returning to self-love, you’re going to understand the truth of the old saying that relationships are determined during the tough times. You’re going to understand that the relationship that you have with yourself is also determined during tough times. Are you kind with yourself? Are you compassionate with yourself? Are you gentle with yourself? And are you nurturing with yourself during the tough times – the difficult times – the rough times? Tough times determine relationships. When…..
When you’re working on returning to self-love, you’re going to have to build up your sense of self-trust as well. Now in the past, you may have made decisions that harmed you. Perhaps you may made mistakes that harmed you. But all those decisions and mistakes were based on the fact that you didn’t love yourself. You believe you were unlovable. You believe your loving was not good enough. And you believe you don’t matter and that you don’t have…..
